Working with My Spouse

One of the most frequently asked questions we get – by far – is, “So what’s it like working with your spouse?”  That question is almost immediately followed with, “I don’t think I could ever do that.”

I would say that for the most part, it rocks.

The best thing about it is that we have common goals, not only in business, but in life.  So our combined vision is rock solid.  His success is my success; my success is his.

In our particular situation, I’d say we also have the benefit of perfectly complementing each other… his strengths are my weaknesses, and vice versa.  He loves going out and meeting all kinds of new people whereas I’m perfectly happy hiding behind my keyboard.  He doesn’t particularly enjoy blogging, so I do most of the writing.  I’m not as natural at public speaking, and it’s difficult getting him to shut up.  He hasn’t balanced a checkbook in 20 years (and probably not even before that, honestly), and – hello – I’m a CPA.  Overall, we’re a match made in heaven in all sorts of ways.

Of course, being that we are so completely different in our business styles, it does result in the occasional conflict.  And I’ll be honest, sometimes it’s not pretty.  When you put two very passionate people in the same discussion coming from two different points of view… let’s just say that we haven’t actually thrown objects at each other, but I don’t think we’ve been too far off.

However, I’ve noticed that it has definitely gotten easier over time.  In the beginning, before we really got a chance to see how we each operated in the office, there was a lot more conflict.  Now our squabbles are much more efficient – intense but incredibly short.  And I believe that if we weren’t married, it would be much easier to handle disagreements in a more passive-aggressive manner and let issues fester for days, months, or even years.  We have none of that.  We get it over with quickly and get back to business.  And I believe our business, and our marriage, is the better for it.

So in all, I realize that working with your spouse is not for everyone.  But it really works for us.